There is no reason to worry
The One who created you has already identified your abilities and limits. When He tests you, He already knows your individual circumstances and your breaking point. He will never burden you with something that is beyond your capability.
We will be tested again and again throughout our lives – this is an inevitable fact of life. In Surah Al Baqarah, we are reminded:
“Or do you think that you will enter Paradise while such [trial] has not yet come to you as came to those who passed on before you? They were touched by poverty and hardship and were shaken until [even their] messenger and those who believed with him said, “When is the help of Allah ?” Unquestionably, the help of Allah is near.” [2:214]
However, there is no reason to worry. There is no reason to fear. The believer is safe in Allah’s care. The help of Allah is coming.
Hence, control your inclination to break down and give up. The path to Paradise is paved with adversity and trials, but the believer must stay focused. Do not give in to your irrational emotions, for if you are with Allah, the solution is close at hand.
Often these events are a catalyst for some inner reflection. Could it be that Allah has taken away your means in order for you to turn towards Him? Could it be to purify your heart of your love for the material world? Could it be to keep your arrogance in check? Could it be to absolve your sins? Could it be to strengthen you in preparation of your own future?
Whatever the reason, you have to keep holding on to your trust in Allah. To do that, you have to quell your personal desires, anger, disappointments, frustrations, and all other futile and negative emotions.
Instead, change your attitude and your mindset to a positive and humble one. Trust in Him, be patient, and things will be fine.
What is the alternative?
The first two verses of Surah Ankabut pose the following statements to us:
“Do the people think that they will be left to say, “We believe” and they will not be tried? But We have certainly tried those before them, and Allah will surely make evident those who are truthful, and He will surely make evident the liars.” [29:2- 29:3]
Do we want to be classified as those who fail the trials that Allah has given to us? Do we want to be labelled as liars and disbelievers in Allah’s Kingdom?
A disobedient person will become angry, argue with Allah, doubt in Allah, think that Allah is punishing him, resist the changes even though they are beyond his control. A disobedient person will think he knows what is best for him better than his Creator does, and refuse submit to Allah’s will.
Instead of trying to comprehend the wisdom behind the events, the disobedient will get caught and sucked into a self made cyclone of self pity, denial, anger and despair. This escalates his inner turmoil, confusion, sadness and impaired judgment. Worse, he runs the risk of Allah prolonging his suffering due to his lack of gratitude and trust to Allah. All inner peace is shattered; he is in a whirl of internal and external chaos and everything becomes complicated.
If one adopts this attitude, where is the sincerity to Allah?
It is not a happy ending … he will end up in an emotional and psychological mess and will slowly and surely destroy his happiness for this life and the next.
Allah’s Sequence
The above may sound simplistic, but life is really that simple. Allah has a certain sunnah, a sequence or manner in which events unfold according to His rules, based on a simple cause and effect formula. How Allah deals with you depends on how you deal with Him. If you believe in Allah, you simply need to eliminate all your pre-conceived notions about handling your life affairs and problems, and follow the sequence commanded by Allah in the Qur’an.
You have a choice of which state you want to be in. Whatever the tragedy, it is not the end of the world. Others have suffered worse and have triumphed.
By empowering yourself with trust in Allah, you will realize that even though the circumstances may be tough, your attitude and ability to rise above all these events have given you the means to stay balanced even if the world is shaking. With the passing of time, you will also understand that whatever Allah chose for you, even if in the form of a calamity, was actually the best for you, even if you did not understand it when the events occurred.
So be patient and seek the help of Allah in times of distress. Allah is waiting for you to turn to him, so turn towards Him and let him navigate the way through your turmoil.
Thanks for the reminder:) I
Thanks for the reminder:) I needed to read this
Just a question
As salam aleykoum , I thank you for this beautiful article ! I was wondering what if we cry not because we don´t accept our destiny but simply to feel less pain and make it easier to handle. Sometimes I do feel sad but I am thankful and make istighfar a lot to help me pass the test but still I AM sad and it hurts me. Is it a bad thing?
No,it is not a bad thing to
No,it is not a bad thing to feel sad…..indeed we have to realize that we are human beings after all, created by our maker to have feelings,emotions etc…so being hurt and sad is NOT a bad thing but a natural response to what we are..a human. InsyAllah ,Sarah you are already in the right track by making istigfar and actually acknowledging what is happening,indeed HE loves you and has chosen you to be closer to HIM….wallahualam…
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Asm Sarah, of course it is not a bad thing or a deficiency to feel sad. Crying is a natural outlet to release our pain, and emotional hurt takes time to heal. The idea is, try not to dwell so much on the pain that it overwhelms you and overshadows the rest of your life. Whenever something negative occurs, remember that Allah tests you to strengthen you, not to break you down.
Thank you so much for your
Thank you so much for your answers, it makes me love our religion even more ! El hamdullillah, may Allah Grant you Peace and Jannah inchallah !
jazakah.
We appriciate for the teachings
Hi Sarah
This is what you have to do. When something negative happens, we have to be persevere and put our trust in Allah SWT but remember that we are also human being. The reason Allah SWT tests us is to feel some emotional and physical pain to remind us that we need him. So feelings hurt emotionally is a part of the test. Its normal. That’s why your sins gets wiped out. Do this. Pray to the Creator in the last third of the night and talk to him and say: ya Rab, whatever happend was for the best and only you know whats good for me and I thank you for everything in my life. But I am also human and I feel such and such. Please ease my inner pain. Tell Allah how exactly you feel. And Insha Allah you will get through whatever you are dealing with now. Allah SWT also mentioned that after every hardship there’s ease. Indeed, after every hardship there’s ease. There will be 2 good surprises after each test remember that. Hope this helps you Insha Allah
thank you very much! needed
thank you very much! needed this…. jazakallah!
Alhamdulilah ur article was
Alhamdulilah ur article was timely for me.Bcos am at breaking point.May Allah ease my emotional trauma n pain.thanks for d article once again.
Note
Verse in suratu-l-Ankabut is 2&3 and not 1&2.
Taubat
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Doing something I kno is wrong but with intention to taubat . Does it make any sense ?
great naseeha for the practicing muslim n muslimahs.
Assalamualikum. Its really a priceless reminder for me. im unable to express my thoughts. Every muslims ( all the brothers n sisters) should ask themself what r they doing in the name of mod3rn islmic thinking.
Jazak Allah
Thanks a lot for this article. Almost all of us needed to have this read. Jazak Allah. May Allah give us the strength to face our hard times.
facing some troubles
Asaalam o Alaikum brother I have been dealing wd medical isues had checked up and found all my test clear but still troubling I started praying and almost everyday I dua to Allah not for me only for every one but still I feel I am not satisfy today I read the above article and I felt like I am going on a wrong path by not being trustworthy towards Allah I feel guilty I trust Allah more then any thing but sometimes my emotions brake and start crying like a baby I am far away from my family I love them I trust Allah but why my heart s not believing in that my mind has made very depressed what should I do please help me out…………..Jazak Allah khair
Beautiful article. Felt great
Beautiful article. Felt great after reading , jazakAllah 🙂
Badly needed this article. My
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Badly needed this article. My eyes were watery coz it helped clear a few things in mind. I was going through a tough time & was at a point of going to depression. I have full faith in Allah SWT & after reading this, I know I have to hold His string even thighter to come out of all of my problems. Inshallah ta’ala He will guide me & many others to the right path …… Ameen.
when things don’t go well
Jazakummullahu khairan for this beautiful reminder , may Allah (SWT) increase your knowledge and wisdom .
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Asm, you are correct. Thank you for pointing out the mistake, it has been corrected in the article.
This is a beautiful reminder
Thank you so much for this beautiful reminder and words of wisdom. I will share this others and pray these words help them as much as it has helped me.
Alhumdullilah..
Alhumdullilah.
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crying
It was narrated that ‘Abdullah bin ‘Umar said: “Sa’d bin ‘Ubâdah fell sick and the Messenger of Allah (Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him) came to visit him with ‘Abdur-Rahman bin ‘Awf, Sa’d bin Abi Waqqaas and Abdullah bin Mas’ud. When he entered upon him, he found him unconscious and he said: ‘Has he died?’ They said: ‘No, O Messenger of Allah.’ The Messenger of Allah wept, and when the people saw the Messenger of Allah weeping, they also wept. He said: ‘Have you not heard? Allah does not punish for the tears of the eye or the grief of the heart, rather He punishes for this’ – and he pointed to his tongue – ‘or shows mercy (because of it).'” Sahih Muslim, Kitab ul Janaez
help of Allah
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Thank you very much for such a beautiful article.it is very much helpful specially to myself.we know but again we forget the way in time.pl post such beautiful reminder as many as possible..
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Asm, thank you for your comment. We will certainly try! In the meantime, if you feel anyone can benefit from this article, why not share the link with them? Jzk
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Wsm, I am happy to hear that. Please drop by at this website again, there are plenty of articles which we hope can inspire you and change your view on life.
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Asm, it is actually very tempting to do wrong and then have justifications for it. Instead of entering into something wrong with the intention to repent, why not refrain totally, and make dua for Allah to give you a better alternative? Everything goes back to your intention, and if yours is pure and sincere, Allah will guide you.
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Asm. Life is a journey, and throughout all this, we are continuously being tested, both with things which we like and things which we dislike. The only way to pass the test is to thank Allah for both situations, and to trust that whatever Allah has chosen for us is the best. Trusting Allah is a beautiful feeling, but it is also coupled with a journey of iman. In this journey, we also have to clear our doubts, and to strengthen our belief. Don’t despair, and don’t feel depressed. This journey is ongoing, life is ongoing. The more you connect with Allah, the more you will develop the trust. Whenever you feel depressed, do some zikr, say Alhamdulillah. Seek Allah, through understanding the Qur’an, reading inspirational books on Islam such as Don’t Be Sad, or simply by going through the abundance of online materials readily available, including this website. Just remember, the One who has taken care of your needs all your life, do you think He will abandon you if you actively seek Him, or do you think He will ignore you and stop taking care of you now? 🙂 Have faith.
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Wsm, I am happy that this article has impacted you positively. Just remember, whenever Allah tests you, it is not to break you, but it is to make you stronger. It is not because He hates you, it is because He loves you. And the way to pass the test, as you said, is to hold on even tighter, and insha Allah, when you pass the test, He will change your tough conditions to good ones. May He make it easy for you.
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Baig
Excellent. Very first paragraph is the thought that already revealed to me.
Pain/ trail
I feel that this happened because of my actions , I fail in bussniss or some financial problem I wonder this is a test or my own mistakes lost house bussniss wealth,health I do pray and doing allott isthikhfar I look at my self I am much better person then before ,and of course the tears come in qyamulial can u explain plz,jazakAllah ho khair
Ameen!
Ameen!
just what i need
may Allah bless you for this article. it’s just what i need at this very moment.
allah is great
Shukr for the wonderful article,I really needed to read this,to be reminded that just how lucky we are,we are faced with so much difficulty,But Allah SWT never fails us,I sometimes cry and don’t understand why certain things happen,but I put my trust in Allah,all will be well In sha allah Ameen,I believe better days lies ahead of us.
was feeling what may happen
this article hit every feeling that I was feeling within myself , O thank you Allah for my mishaps.Ameen.Z
Well said. I have been
Well said. I have been emotionally hurt and crying, I always Pray to God to give me strength and courage and lift me up and Enlighten me. Also I say that You don’t want me to cry. God said “If you cry I will cry too and If you Laugh I will Laugh Too”. So why make God cry. Sorry I come from a Christian background. Its takes time to get over emotional hurts, be positive and pray. I bet you will get over it ASAP. This is my great experience. 🙂
Goodness
jzk for this reminder it is very inspirational and hopeful 😀 x
Jazak Allah for Marvellous Article
Jazak Allah for such wonderful article. This is need of Muslim Ummah. It has strengthened my faith and conviction. Am going through some very troubling time and needed such enlightenment. Will In Sha Allah continue to bow my head for mercy by my Allah my creator on me. With total trust in Him lies my destiny and future. Once again Jazak Allah for such wonderful revelation for guidance.
It is normal to feel sad.
It is normal to feel sad. Allah gave us these emotions so we will feel it. However, we should not come to the point where we blame Allah for the hurdle we are going through. As mentioned in the article, we might not know but this pain might be necessary for us for the betterment of our lives.. May Allah make everyone pass theses tests…Ameen